Mary Stood (Memorial of Our Lady of Sorrows) - reflex on John 19:25-27

“Standing by the cross of Jesus (was) his mother…”

Mary stood. She remained and did not flee. She did not turn away from the most heartbreaking moment of her life (and she had experienced many heartbreaking moments), but stood near her Son, united with her Son, offering her Son. Mary at the foot of the Cross is all pain and prayer.

At the Annunciation, she had said YES to the Lord, even though she could not see all the details that assent included. She said YES, she meant it, and she never drew back from it, even when it was difficult and confusing and heartbreaking. She remained always the woman of faith and hope and love, who encountered the Word, accepted it, assented to it, and never wavered, all the way to Calvary and beyond.

She remained firm in every difficult circumstance: the cold poverty into which she first welcomed the  Infant Word into the world, the unexpected flight into a foreign and pagan land to save his life, the daily dust and toil of life, the loss of her son for three days when he was 12, the hidden pains and prayers of motherhood, the separation from him as he left the home she had made for him to embrace the mission the Father had given him, the enemies who plotted to trap him and have him killed, his agony and death at their hands, preparing his lifeless body for the tomb.

Her whole life of joy and sorrow is summed up in her words at the Annunciation: “I am the handmaid of the Lord. Let it be done to me according to your word” (Luke 1:38). From the Cross, Jesus speaks these words to her: “Woman, behold your son.” According to that word, we are all her children.

Mary surrendered all to the Lord, even her beloved Son, because she understood that this was the will of God, and being sinless, her whole being was uniquely open and responsive to the will of God. As a mother to each of us, her motherly Heart desires to lead us to the Heart of her Son, the Source of all that is good and true and beautiful, the Source of salvation and eternal joy. Her heart’s sorrow is that not all respond to the love of her Son. Let us allow her to mother us into the arms of Jesus, and into eternity with Him.